Parents can be tricky when it comes to India.My parents are not the typical controlling parents on the surface,they are kind and deeply care about me like any other parents do.
The thing is they just think they know what is best for their kids and if ,for example, I choose a different route, they become very much concerned.
They will agree to some extent but they will never let go or let me forget of what they think is the best for me at a certain stage and thus our conflict starts.
Conflict of ideology which has been changing with time for me but theirs is not much changing.
Sometimes I wonder why the current generation became so fearless when we discovered perhaps social media ,more experience and started to think freely of our cultural roots but the same cannot be said changed for our parents.
People say to me all the time when you will prove yourself to them that you were right to chose your path as you wish for ,they will be better and will be happy for you and till that time they will keep on worrying.I do not completely agree with the idea of the pressure of proving and let them suffer,worry or worst let all these impact their health.
I hope there was a better way and perhaps this Indian Society and parents opinion which is so much driven by the dogma “WHAT WILL RELATIVES AND SOCIETY THINK” , I just wish could change .No doubt, there are good and bad things that have seeped into the current generation but giving them freedom to be able to make their own decision and take their life journey to not the well woven path but to the unknown and be it leading to rugged path or a shiny one let them experience is all I can ask for.Because they have to know its not just them who deeply care about their children but we care about them as well and we sometimes end up making decision which we are not in for just for their happiness sake and we end up suffering and I don’t see a point how can they be happy about it in the end and perhaps they need to really ponder on their happiness criteria for their children.
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